Are You Intimate With Jesus?
The church is called the Bride of Christ
Rev 19:7- Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready.
2 Cor 11:2 - I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy. I promised you to one husband, to Christ, so that I might present you as a pure virgin to him.
What bridegroom does not want to have sex with his new bride? Especially if she is presented to him as a virgin (and he is a"virgin", too) as is so often not the case in our culture. And let’s not forget the bride. While a woman’s sex drive usually does not match her husband’s, women nevertheless look forward to the intimacy of the wedding night as well.
Sex is the one act that separates marriage from other relationships. When it is used as God designed it, it is the supreme act of intimacy, drawing a husband and wife together and bringing great pleasure to both partners. Humans were designed for intimacy. With men it leans to the physical, and with women it leans to the emotional, but both of us desire both kinds of intimacy. And we were made in the image of God, which means our desire for intimacy is a reflection of God’s desire for intimacy.
We obviously are not going to literally have sex with Jesus, but the image of the church as the bride of Christ demonstrates to us that God desires the kind of intimacy from us that comes with a (healthy) sexual relationship. In Genesis, God was found walking in the Garden of Eden during the cool of the day. He came to Adam and Eve to spend time with them. Time is another factor that creates intimacy. While it’s possible to spend time with a person and never become intimate, it is impossible to become intimate without spending time together. That time does not have to be in physical proximity (it could be a long-distance relationship nurtured through letters, phone calls, email, etc.) but it does have to include opening ourselves up to the other person and receiving their openness.
That is what our relationship to God should be like. When a man and woman meet and find themselves attracted to one another, the first thing they generally do is find a way to spend some time together. She gives him her phone number. He calls. They talk. They meet somewhere and talk some more. They do things together. The more they discover that they have in common, the more things they do together, and so they spend even more time together. Eventually they get married, move into the same house and spend oodles of time together. The only way you can truly become the bride of Christ that you were meant to be is to spend time with him. The more you spend time with him, the more you will find you have in common with him, and the more you will desire to spend time with him.
Maybe your marriage to Christ isn't what it ought to be. If so, I assure you that in this marriage, you are the problem, not your husband. If that is the case, begin today to reconcile by spending time with him - time in fellowship with other believers, time in the Word, and time in prayer. And if you just aren't feeling it, then start by praying for the grace to desire him again. And in time you will once again find pleasure in your Groom, and He will find pleasure in you.